How to be the perfect bridesmaid

Being a bridesmaid is a huge honour, but it's not just about walking down the's how to make sure you're ticking off all those bridesmaid tasks...

How to be the perfect bridesmaid
Be there for the bride. Image: Jay Rowden

From sending out invites to helping choose the dress, bridesmaid duties are about SO much more than wearing matching dresses. Not sure how to help your bestie? Our top tips will ensure you’ll be the best bridesmaid a girl could ask for

The bride is always right
If there’s one thing we’ve learned about weddings, it’s this. Even if you don’t agree with some of her choices, just keep smiling and go with the flow. Bear this in mind when it comes to dress fittings: pink polka dots might not be what you had in mind, but if the bride loves it, then heck, so do you!


Keep calm and carry on
Planning can be stressful and you’ll be the first person the bride turns to when things get a little overwhelming. Help by taking on extra tasks, offering her a shoulder to cry on and a glass of wine. Whatever happens, remember to keep a cool head, and if she gets a little cranky, never take it personally.

Organise and prioritise
‘Organisation’ will become your middle name during the run up to the big day. There’s a lot to plan, from helping send out invites and thank you cards to booking the eye candy for the hen party. Ideally, the chief bridesmaid should delegate tasks equally among bridesmaids - time to get those spreadsheets out!


Expect the unexpected
Even the most meticulously-planned weddings can expect a few glitches along the way. Having a back-up plan, a handy make-up wipe and neutral lipgloss will ensure you’re ready to handle any ‘worst-case’ scenarios. Possible mishaps include: heavy rain, hair disasters, late chauffeurs and drunken uncles (hopefully not all at once).

Play nice
Happy bridesmaids equal a happy bride. The last thing she needs to worry about is squabbling maids! If you’re having trouble with a fellow bridesmaid, put aside differences and remember the reason you’re all there.

Be the hostess with the mostest
The bride may ask you to perform hosting duties throughout the day, which could be anything from handing out favours to showing guests to their seats. It’s been a long and exhausting day, but remember to keep smiling and offer help to anyone who needs it.


Enjoy yourself!
You’ve spent months planning and preparing, and now all the hard work has paid off. So kick off your stilettos, grab some bubbles and lead the dance floor conga lines!

Want more bridesmaid advice?  Here are 13 signs your bridesmaids are the best ever and cool bridesmaid style inspiration

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