8 things not to let your man plan!

1 The venue
Leave him to it and you may be on your way to a drive-through chapel in Las Vegas, or saying ‘I do’ at his favourite sports venue (yes, Tottenham Hotspur do have a wedding licence). The venue is key, so make sure it’s a decision you make together.

2 The seating plan
He won’t understand why your vegan sister can’t sit next to fox hunting Aunt Maud and he’ll fail miserably at matchmaking your bridesmaids with eligible men. Table plans may seem like a pain, but they’ll save you plenty of stress in the long run.

3 Your transport
Let him book the car he arrives in, but when it comes to leaving the church together you need something big enough to fit your designer dress in!

4 Your bridesmaids
He might like the look of your mate Anna, but what he doesn’t know is that after a couple of G&Ts she transforms into a sobbing wreck over her ex Andy and will be using your veil as a rather expensive hanky. So it’s probably best if you pick your maids, eh?

5 The wedding theme
Think of everything he loves: sport, beer, Top Gear. None of these should be the theme for your day (unless you like them too, in which case go for it!).

6 The evening entertainment
Yes, he used to play guitar in college and yes, it might be fun to get the lads together for a ‘reunion gig’... But your big day is not the time or the place!
 
7 The dress
You’ve seen Don’t Tell The Bride, and the ‘interesting’ outfits they put 
their fiancées in. Ask yourself this – would you let your man dress you on a normal day? Didn’t think so...

8 The catering
Man food? For a summer wedding? Pie and mash might be tasty, but your guests won’t thank you for it when they need to get up and start dancing afterwards!

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