9 things NOT to do as soon as you get engaged

Hold off from doing these wedding planning tasks.

9 things NOT to do as soon as you get engaged
The wedding tasks that can wait. Image: iStock

Lucky enough to have just got engaged? There are a few things that you need to get on and do right away and some wedding planning that can wait. Hold off on these key wedding tasks…

Choose your wedding dress
Your dress choice may be influenced by your venue and theme of your wedding, so it’s best to get those in place before you dash out and fall in love with a super-slinky fishtail that won’t suit your festival-in-a-field do. That said, order times can be five-six months and alterations a further six–eight weeks in peak season, so factor this into your schedule.

Choose your wedding party
As much as you might be bursting with excitement about asking all your besties to be bridesmaids, hold fire and give it some thought first. Will you be buying their dresses? If so, can you afford to have five of them? And will they actually be good at the job? Being a bridesmaid is more than just wearing a nice dress...

Plan your honeymoon
Don’t overwhelm yourselves with all the choices available – worry about this later. You may want a minimoon city break after the wedding to give yourselves time to save for the big one. Then there’s something to look forward to once the party’s over…

Choose your first dance
Kimye had an Etta James and Otis Redding mash-up, but you might want to choreograph an upbeat Strictly-esque swing ensemble – check out YouTube for ideas but don’t worry about setting it in stone until you’ve got all your suppliers booked.

Order your wedding stationery
Your invites will set the tone for your day, so don’t rush into buying them before you know what colour scheme or look you’re going for. If you want to post a save the date, go simple – the invites can wait until three or four months before the day.

Sort out transport
Until you have your venue booked, there’s no need to worry about how you’re getting from A to B. Whether you want to borrow a friend’s car, or hire a vintage bus to ferry guests around, don’t sweat the small stuff until nearer the time.

Arrange a gift list
Whether you want a traditional list at a site like, donations to a ‘honey fund’ or charity, or a mixture (try, this needn’t be a top priority until you’re about to send out your invites. Many websites will send you cards to include with your stationery – which makes it all hassle-free.

DIY wedding décor
There’s no point embarking on Project Glittery Centrepieces until you know how many tables you’re going to need, so put this off until around six months before. That said, don’t leave it until the last minute either – pre-wedding nerves + glitter + glue gun = never going to end well.

The wedding table plan
This is always one of the last ‘to-dos’ before the big day. You’ll need all your RSVPs back in order to sit down and work out who’s sitting with who, so leave it until around four weeks before your wedding. You can always give your friends a heads-up about any ‘friendly’ ushers they might be seated near!

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