Who pays for what?

Traditionally the bride’s family bore most of the cost, but this isn’t expected today. There’s no longer any strict etiquette on who pays, and it’s becoming common for the bride’s parents to make a major contribution, and the groom’s parents to also contribute by means of a cheque or picking up the bill for some items. Increasingly, the bride and groom also contribute – particularly those who are marrying later in life.

Planning and communication are key; often whoever is paying feels they should have control. If the main elements are agreed first, this can be reined in – a budget should be set and explained to all parties. Discussions about the expectations of each party also need to be had early on – honesty is the best policy! Also, as planning progresses, those who are contributing should be kept aware of how the day is shaping up thanks to their funding.